Working in a restaurant, I see a lot of …interesting people.
I’ve never forgotten the transgendered "man" (woman?) who was
seated at one of my tables last summer.
She was born a woman, clearly. Petite, brunette, even pretty.
Except for the flimsy "moustache" and "goatee" of a
testosterone-ridden 8th grader. She looked to be a mechanic or something,
wearing dirty jeans, tank top and flannel overshirt. Her hands were
strangely feminine, but clearly had seen a lot of work and not much soap before
coming to lunch that day. Media and cultural ideals of feminine beauty certainly
were things she had overcome.
She was clearly trying not to be a woman, but she was obviously NOT passing
for a man.
So when another woman trying to pass herself off as a man, using the title of
Reverend and "pastoring" a couple churches in Iowa, gives advice on
what a woman’s true beauty is according to God at the ELCA’s Cafe
(a.k.a. big fat barrel o’ fish), I was sadly not surprised that the entire
article failed to mention Jesus, much less the Cross. Yet she purports to
tell others what God has to say about the matter apart from Christ.
Bemoaning the media and the unattainable ideals it sets before women, she
makes passing reference to God but only to comment about how unconditionally He
loves us.
This certainly can't be what the God of Peace intends for us. We were created in God's image, weren't we? Our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, aren't they? So if we hate our bodies, as our culture's media encourages us to do, does that mean we hate God? Is that like saying, "God, your creation isn't good enough. I'd love you more if I looked better in a miniskirt?”
Yep. That’s what we say. We hate God. We arrogantly tell
Him just what He needs to do in our lives to get us to love Him more. And
being the superficial, appearance-driven women that we are, who wouldn’t love
God more if He made us supermodel drop dead gorgeous? I know I certainly
would.
The author says that body image is a faith issue. "As a matter of faith, it is imperative that we make peace with our bodies, that we actively reject this destructive ideal, and embrace ourselves as unconditionally as God does."
This is misleading. Maybe even a logical fallacy. How does
God embrace us? Sure, red and yellow, black and white, we are precious in
His sight…He doesn’t care what we look like. God still loves us when
we’re feeling fat (even if we are!). But He does not love us
unconditionally because we are somehow just so unconditionally loveable He can’t
help Himself. This "pastor" neglects to tell her readers that
God loves us unconditionally – in Christ. It is only because of Christ
that God loves us at all. Not because we’re pretty or have healthy body
images or reject the media’s standard of beauty.
Scripture tells us that Christ has sanctified and cleansed His Bride with the
washing of water by the Word (Baptism) where also He gives her His perfect
beauty, "That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish."
(Eph 5:26-27) You don’t get more beautiful than that. We look in the
mirror and see all our blemishes, wrinkles, flab, cellulite, stretch marks –
nothing but flaws. Christ looks on us and says, "Not my
Bride. My beautiful Bride doesn’t have any flaws. No spots,
wrinkles…not even sins. I took them all to the Cross for
her."
I agree with the author. Beauty is a faith issue. But it’s not a
matter of convincing ourselves to make peace with our bodies and the diversity
of our flaws despite all the pressure from the media to uphold an unattainable
ideal. It is not a faith issue because we believe ourselves to be
beautiful. Beauty is a faith issue because only by faith do we believe
what God says about us in Christ. Only by faith alone do we receive His beauty, won for us on the Cross and delivered to us in the waters of our
Baptism.
In Christ, God says you’re beautiful. Faith says, "Amen, I am beautiful, as you say."
This, I think, is the best post of yours I’ve read. Brilliant. Thank you.
Interesting post you’ve written here. It never ceases to amaze me how the ELCA has made the shift from a church, to a social club that abuses the name “Lutheran” and will do anything it can to avoid mentioning Jesus Christ as Savior, or preaching Law and Gospel anymore.
Quote: “She was clearly trying not to be a woman, but she was obviously NOT passing for a man.”
This is the end result of women’s liberation. Along with the tee-shirts that said:
“Boys are stupid – throw rocks at them”
Of course this campaign backfired. Now you scum American women are the hated ones. Happily, most abortions worldwide are preformed on gestating females. It couldn’t have happened to a nicer bunch of folks.
Purim – 2007 HaHaHa
I got a better one:
“Just as dodo birds aren’t real birds so also American women are not real human beings”
I appreciate your analysis of the ELCA advice, and your point about being made loveable to God by Christ. I do see other issues, however.
First, the desire to be beautiful is a desire for power. People’s attention gratifies me and beauty gives me that attention. I can even get people to do things for me with a smile or a batting of my eyelashes. That’s power!
Second, we have the almost irresistable urge to compare ourselves with others. Their novelty often trumps our sameness (familiarity breeds contempt, even for self, after all).
Third, we enjoy making others envy us. We may not really enjoy taking that big boat out, but boy, my neighbors think I do, and that is worth the monthly payment. We want to be envied and beauty is what others covet.
Fourthly, we often falsely attribute attitude (confidence, assertiveness) or personality to looks. I want to be her, or like her translates, subconsciously, into wanting to look like her.
All this brings us back to your main point, that we should care about what God thinks, and say no to the world, or flesh and the devil. Jesus enables us to do this.
But then, what is the role of beauty in the Christian life, particularly for women? I suggest that it is an aspect of service, pleasing others and sending the right kind of message by how we present ourselves. One message is appropriate to our spouse, another to those we serve on our job, and yet another to fellow believers when we gather for divine service.
Please stop blogging and get me a refill for my tea.